Stable relationships with friends, family and partners are important as they can influence your health and well-being.

Relationships can be tricky and confusing. The important part of a relationship is that both of you are happy and that you support and care for each other. A good relationship should make you feel happy with a sense of belonging, someone you trust and are able to talk to.

If your relationship is healthy, you should feel able to discuss your concerns with your partner, but there may be occasions when you may want to talk to someone else. If you feel unable to talk to a friend or family member, please remember the School Nurse is here to help.

In a healthy relationship someone shouldn’t try to control you. Controlling or threatening behaviour can be physical, sexual, emotional, financial or psychological.

Having sex is a big decision. If you don’t feel comfortable or ready to have sex or do sexual things with someone, then you don’t have to. The person you’re with should care about you enough not to pressure you or make you do something you’re not happy about.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend makes you feel scared in your relationship, it’s important to get support. Try talking to an adult you trust or speak to your School Nurse.

You might be worried about a friend or relative's relationship. If you think they’re in an unhealthy relationship, it can be difficult to know exactly what’s happening or how to help them.

If someone is in an abusive relationship or being groomed, it can be hard for them to recognise that something is wrong. Being groomed is never someone’s fault. But you might be unsure about how to help them.

Asking an adult for help and encouraging your friend to get support will help you both to stay safe.

Useful links

  • The NSPCC has advice on relationships available.
  • ChildLine also has a lot of information on healthy and unhealthy relationships, whether your own or someone you are worried about. You can find it here.